How to Be an Attractive Woman

I have read my share of Thought Catalog in the past few months, and it seems like men have really tiptoed around the subject of holding women to some kind of a standard. Well, I’m going to ignore that paradigm and speak on what I think men look for in a woman. So, here is yet another listicle for our wonderful readership.

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Be You

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   Be distinctly you. Don't copy movie stars like Jessica Lange or Andrea Thompson to achieve your look, If you observe people at a party or any social gathering, you'll notice the majority of guys drawn to women with unique (but not intimidating) personalities. Focus on what makes you interesting and fun to talk to, and let those aspects of your personality shine through.
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   Love yourself. You can be pretty but not attractive if you don't learn how to love yourself. Nobody will care how shiny and thick your hair is, for example, if you keep complaining about your waist size. Confidence is powerful and infectious, so try to learn to be confident.
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   Be principled. Stick up for what you believe in. Knowing what you like and don't like, what you believe in and what you disavow, is extremely attractive. Being principled will help you maintain your moral compass and keep your social life tidy.
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   Don't necessarily listen to the opinion of other women when pursuing men.Every woman has their own perception of beauty and what they think men find attractive. "Wear this," "Do that," "Show your left ankle; men love it, and they will respect you for it too!" While sometimes helpful, this kind of advice can keep you distracted from the real goal: expressing who you are.
   

   • Go with your own gut, your own instinct; the men who don't respect you for it aren't the men you want to attract. Besides, women all have different ways/methods of attracting others.

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Be Outgoing

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   Be willing to participate. Whether it's talking, eating, gaming, dancing, or snorkeling, it's only polite to join in. Who knows, you might learn something, too. A person who just sits there watching might as well be wearing a flashing neon sign that says "I'm a boring person who doesn't like fun!"
   

   • This doesn't mean you should join in drinking or partying if you're not into those things. Participate only in what you have fun doing.
   • To get involved, walk kindly up to a person or group and ask, "Do you mind if I join you?" If they say yes, go ahead and have fun. If they say no, you probably wouldn't have had fun joining them anyway!
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   Be capable of carrying on a conversation. You don't need to have something in common with a guy for conversation to blossom, but it helps. If a guy tries to talk to you and you just stand there, he's going to move on, so learn to be interested in lots of different topics and remember to ask questions.
   

   • A good conversation starter is to ask his opinion about something superficial, such as whether INXS picked the right guy or if he did anything fun recently. Avoid asking him for input about your looks, as it can seem like you're fishing for compliments.
   • Keep the conversation light. Above all, don't put yourself down, unless you do so in a humorous way.
   • Maintain eye contact. This will help establish a deeper connection. You're reminding him that you're paying attention, and that you expect him to do the same.

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Be Positive

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   Be kind. A rude person turns ugly in the eyes of whoever who sees her, just as someone who's nice turns into a prettier person in the eyes of everyone who sees her.
   

   • Try to be nice to everyone, but also be ready to defend yourself against any rude attitudes, since letting people walk all over you is not very attractive.
   • If anyone is "different", avoid making fun of them or giving them a nasty, "I am better than you" look.
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   Don't be afraid to smile. Even a little smile will make you more attractive. What else could be more inviting and approachable?
   

   • Be readable. You don't have to be predictable, but don't keep a poker face when it comes to emotions. Guys want a little feedback.
   • Don't force it if it's not there. Try to smile, but don't be fake. Smile when you feel like it.

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Take Care of Yourself

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   Be healthy. Eyes take kindly to a woman who takes care of herself.
   

   • Find a happy medium for your weight, eat well, get enough sleep, and exercise.
   • Being healthy makes you more energetic, is great for your mental health, and does wonders for your confidence.
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   Take care of your skin. Blemishes, especially those on the face, can be distracting.
   

   • Wash your face regularly, and wear moisturizer and sunblock daily to prevent wrinkles and sun damage.
   • Apply makeup to accentuate your complexion, but never to hide your features.
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   Be hygienic. Maintain your body's cleanliness so that you always smell and look fresh and lovely.
   

   • Take showers, brush your teeth after every meal, and wear clean clothes.
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   Keep your hair healthy and styled. They say that the hair is the portrait of the face, so make sure it looks great.
   

   • Comb and brush your hair every day. Greasy or damaged hair is seldom attractive.
   • Favor styles that fit your facial shape. Accentuate your natural features instead of fighting against them.
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   Visit a day spa. You don't have to do it every week, but don't be afraid to pamper yourself every once in a while. Get a manicure and pedicure, a massage, or a facial. If you feel good, chances are you'll look good, too.
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   Be stylish. Make sure you look your best no matter what. Wear clothes that flatter you, and don't forget to accessorize.
   

   • Even if you're wearing sweat pants, dab a little gloss onto your lips and wear gold hoop earrings or a bracelet.
   • Try wearing a fitted top with loose bottoms, or fitted bottoms with a loose top for an "attractive" outfit.
   • For more special occasions, try wearing high heeled sandals, a flowy blouse and skinny jeans.